omg this was gold edgar!!!! the prince eric pic really took me out, you are something else in the best way possible!! i cant wait to eat arroz con gandules with you one day!!โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
however has the privilege of getting close to you is a lucky son of a bichota๐
The way that you know my heart better than me is crazyyyyyy. Also finishing one degree and probably starting another soon, and I feel like the search for love is an authentic one but Iโm not in a space to force it. I also am on the apps and I feel that connection and the theory of such has been a long shot because the definition and meaning of that has changed for so many people. Iโm so thankful to share space with you, and honestly this made it feel less lonely in that regard. ๐ญ
Loved this piece Edgard! What a way to be introduced to your writing. I am savoring my solitude at the moment, and chique itโs been sabroso. ๐๐ฝ
I think we all just need to marry each other at this point ๐ญ. This was a great read, I busted out laughing several times because why are you so funny? and I could relate to all of it. I am personally done with dating apps until further notice (forever lol). I would rather gamble in the game of life than at the Tinder casino because I keep losing all of my money, dignity and mental faculties playing with those creatures that I attract on the internet!
I absolutely LOVE this piece! Our society puts so much emphasis on fleeting romantic connections instead of our reliable, loving platonic ones and it only feeds us unfair expectations and disappointment. Iโve had many moments where Iโve felt lonelier in a partnership than I did while I was single how fucked is that? Thank you for sharing your experience so candidly and authentically ๐งก
โsir, your hairline has receded two feet since the start of this date.โ fuckkkk your writing is so funny and witty I just wanna have a coffee with you now.
Bahahaha, thank you, honey! Gosh, I would love that so much. We'd be kiki-ing all caffeinated and happy. But for real though, like... how is it that these men have this audacity? LOL. the goal posts are moving... and by goal posts i mean their hairline lmfaooooo
i used to be heavy on the apps and after being stood recently by someone from Hinge, I renewed my bubbling disdain for them. Not just because of being stood up, but because of what you said--someone being able to yes/no you in a matter of seconds. and honestly, I hated doing it to other people.
every time id be on the app, Id swipe so fast that sometimes id run out of people to see. and because people's pictures are the most dominant things i see, it was always based on the physical. however in real life, I've dated a variety of people look wise based on the non physical things that drew me in like humor, interests, and overall vibes.
im in a season of solitude and even though I'm home and my family is asking me when i'm going ton bring my nonexistent boyfriend home, im okay with being alone, but still having myself, because as you said, it hurts more to lose yourself than to lose someone else, especially some raggedy ass man
Yes, Kamil! Each of us are entire universes. You can't know someone completely over a dating app, much less over a short period of time - to condense and shrink ourselves to some trite and debasing effort to be picked by someone who may not even be worthy? POR FAVOR. No. I can't do it anymore. I am not a piece of meat to be served at the will of others. You are so dead on here and I really felt like you really understood me. Hopefully the universe will bring us our people and next thing we know, we'll be inviting each other to a wedding or a similar major relationship milestone party or something. :) Wishing you good things and people - you deserve them, honey. xoxo
come on, entire universe! that part! im really hoping I can resist the urge to jump back on when it surfaces, but yeah, itโs not giving, and im tired of playing small for the sake of some face over an app.
and come on now, speak it true! when i first read this, I was like, โis it possible for me to have this!?โ but then i thought, yes, it certainly is. I hate how society makes us feel like if we havenโt found โour personโ by a certain age, then it wonโt happen. I think about people, like my grandpa, who was finding love until the very last moment he was on earth. just gotta be open to it and also to the idea of my โiโ becoming a โweโ situation
iโve been single my entire life and itโs only in the past couple years that itโs really started to feel like home. deprioritizing romantic love and appreciating the other bountiful love in my life has been major! thank you for putting this into words โฅ๏ธ
DEPRIORITIZING ROMANTIC LOVE. that part. it wakes us up to the abundance of love and respect and kindness that we already have in our families, in our friendships. and it tells us that this is actually what we need. you are so dead on. thanks for your comment, hun. <3
On dating apps: While in Georgia, I met with three girls from France and we spent a whole day walking and talking about everything. One of them bluntly asked me if I used Tinder for dating. I just remember I rambled on for more sentences than necessary, vigorously arguing why it wasn't a good idea at all. I even have a micro poem dedicated to the seemingly never-ending swipe on these apps, shaping individuals into mere selfies and categories. No matter how many prompts or any other tricks and sleights of the hand they use, there is an inherent division-inducing quality to these apps, as it is with mainstream social media.
Agree completely. It feels really limiting and constraining to filter my life through the lens of the app, or worse - through the lens of what i think people want to see. that one is even worse. between that and having to pay 39.99 for extra swipes... like, what are we fucking doing here??? i think you have brought up and excellent point, the apps are inherently divisive!
omg this was gold edgar!!!! the prince eric pic really took me out, you are something else in the best way possible!! i cant wait to eat arroz con gandules with you one day!!โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
however has the privilege of getting close to you is a lucky son of a bichota๐
The way that you know my heart better than me is crazyyyyyy. Also finishing one degree and probably starting another soon, and I feel like the search for love is an authentic one but Iโm not in a space to force it. I also am on the apps and I feel that connection and the theory of such has been a long shot because the definition and meaning of that has changed for so many people. Iโm so thankful to share space with you, and honestly this made it feel less lonely in that regard. ๐ญ
Loved this piece Edgard! What a way to be introduced to your writing. I am savoring my solitude at the moment, and chique itโs been sabroso. ๐๐ฝ
I think we all just need to marry each other at this point ๐ญ. This was a great read, I busted out laughing several times because why are you so funny? and I could relate to all of it. I am personally done with dating apps until further notice (forever lol). I would rather gamble in the game of life than at the Tinder casino because I keep losing all of my money, dignity and mental faculties playing with those creatures that I attract on the internet!
I absolutely LOVE this piece! Our society puts so much emphasis on fleeting romantic connections instead of our reliable, loving platonic ones and it only feeds us unfair expectations and disappointment. Iโve had many moments where Iโve felt lonelier in a partnership than I did while I was single how fucked is that? Thank you for sharing your experience so candidly and authentically ๐งก
โsir, your hairline has receded two feet since the start of this date.โ fuckkkk your writing is so funny and witty I just wanna have a coffee with you now.
Bahahaha, thank you, honey! Gosh, I would love that so much. We'd be kiki-ing all caffeinated and happy. But for real though, like... how is it that these men have this audacity? LOL. the goal posts are moving... and by goal posts i mean their hairline lmfaooooo
felt so much of this, Edgard!
i used to be heavy on the apps and after being stood recently by someone from Hinge, I renewed my bubbling disdain for them. Not just because of being stood up, but because of what you said--someone being able to yes/no you in a matter of seconds. and honestly, I hated doing it to other people.
every time id be on the app, Id swipe so fast that sometimes id run out of people to see. and because people's pictures are the most dominant things i see, it was always based on the physical. however in real life, I've dated a variety of people look wise based on the non physical things that drew me in like humor, interests, and overall vibes.
im in a season of solitude and even though I'm home and my family is asking me when i'm going ton bring my nonexistent boyfriend home, im okay with being alone, but still having myself, because as you said, it hurts more to lose yourself than to lose someone else, especially some raggedy ass man
Yes, Kamil! Each of us are entire universes. You can't know someone completely over a dating app, much less over a short period of time - to condense and shrink ourselves to some trite and debasing effort to be picked by someone who may not even be worthy? POR FAVOR. No. I can't do it anymore. I am not a piece of meat to be served at the will of others. You are so dead on here and I really felt like you really understood me. Hopefully the universe will bring us our people and next thing we know, we'll be inviting each other to a wedding or a similar major relationship milestone party or something. :) Wishing you good things and people - you deserve them, honey. xoxo
come on, entire universe! that part! im really hoping I can resist the urge to jump back on when it surfaces, but yeah, itโs not giving, and im tired of playing small for the sake of some face over an app.
and come on now, speak it true! when i first read this, I was like, โis it possible for me to have this!?โ but then i thought, yes, it certainly is. I hate how society makes us feel like if we havenโt found โour personโ by a certain age, then it wonโt happen. I think about people, like my grandpa, who was finding love until the very last moment he was on earth. just gotta be open to it and also to the idea of my โiโ becoming a โweโ situation
Love the honesty in this, also feeling so lucky to have found the love of my life in this mad world.
Good for you, mi amor. Cherish it, hold it close to you! Thanks for the comment. :)
iโve been single my entire life and itโs only in the past couple years that itโs really started to feel like home. deprioritizing romantic love and appreciating the other bountiful love in my life has been major! thank you for putting this into words โฅ๏ธ
DEPRIORITIZING ROMANTIC LOVE. that part. it wakes us up to the abundance of love and respect and kindness that we already have in our families, in our friendships. and it tells us that this is actually what we need. you are so dead on. thanks for your comment, hun. <3
I love the title, Edgard. Pulled me right in!
On dating apps: While in Georgia, I met with three girls from France and we spent a whole day walking and talking about everything. One of them bluntly asked me if I used Tinder for dating. I just remember I rambled on for more sentences than necessary, vigorously arguing why it wasn't a good idea at all. I even have a micro poem dedicated to the seemingly never-ending swipe on these apps, shaping individuals into mere selfies and categories. No matter how many prompts or any other tricks and sleights of the hand they use, there is an inherent division-inducing quality to these apps, as it is with mainstream social media.
Agree completely. It feels really limiting and constraining to filter my life through the lens of the app, or worse - through the lens of what i think people want to see. that one is even worse. between that and having to pay 39.99 for extra swipes... like, what are we fucking doing here??? i think you have brought up and excellent point, the apps are inherently divisive!