“because nothing says "date me" like looking like a tourist in your own city” hahaha puedo ver que sí que eres fucking gorgeous!! Sometimes the best thing to do is just deleting them for a long period to see what happens, just doing something different can lead to new things, it worked for me in the past🌞🌞🌞
I was in a coffee shop waiting for my order and trying to make small talk with some of the other people in line. Folks just aren’t used to it anymore. I had one convo that seemed to be going well until I heard them walk away with a friend… “Just standing there without a phone trying to get people to talk to him… like some kind of psychopath” We need to get back to communicating like people again - Well said my friend!
😂 bahahaha, tht's hilarious. and a great point - can the apps make good opportunities or good people look bad, therefore you skip them? Does that make sense? Where the medium is just NOT good and you're actually better in person... you know... where it's supposed to count, lol. (Or is this just a Beryl moment? i tend to have my own eddy moments, so that's why i ask hahahaha) guess tinder's algorithm isn't as smart as abuela's matchmaking skills after all. maybe we should start an app called "what would abuela do?" – swipe left for chancletazos, right for love and maybe some rice. 🩴🍚
honestly amazed vic still wanted to date me after me swiping left and witnessing me in peak chaos gremlin mode on a campaign like if u think my adhd is bad now, you should have seen me at 22 😹😹😹😹
vic must have the patience of a saint and the vision of a psychic! 😂 if he saw you in full campaign gremlin mode and still said "yes, that's the chaos i want in my life," he is either a lil cray or your soulmate. maybe both? 🤷♂️ here's to love that survives left swipes and adhd hurricanes! 🌪️❤️ hahaha. that's beautiful. and honestly, a good example that what's meant for you can't miss ya.
i 100% believe we will have no deficits of abuelas that will want to judge and vet, especially men. i know all the elder women of my family have that radar and will judge accordingly!!!! haha. i will never forget my great aunt saying to one of my female cousins "if you can't marry for love, then get one with a lot of money". i think they can't steer us wrong!😂😂
Omg this was so insightful and funny lol! I am so glad I am not on the apps anymore. My bf now is the first person since adulthood that I’ve met in person.
hey there, friend! thanks for dropping by and sharing your thoughts. i'm glad you found the post both insightful and funny - that's always the goal, you know? mixing a little wisdom with a dash of humor! 😉so, you've escaped the wild world of dating apps, huh? i'm curious - what was your experience like on the apps before meeting your current beau? any horror stories you'd care to share? or maybe some unexpectedly sweet moments? i feel like everyone who's dipped their toes in the online dating pool has at least one story that's either hilarious or horrifying (or both). and hey, since we're on the topic, what do you think about the whole "meeting people in real life" thing nowadays? does it feel like a lost art to you? or do you think there's hope for us yet in this digital age? i'm all ears (or eyes, in this case), hahaha
When it comes to meeting people in real life, I do feel like it’s a lost art that is VERY slowly, like snail pace slow, coming back. I’m not sure that is a lost cause tbh. I think it’s just hard to trust a stranger at face value, vs what they post and share online. You can see people’s true colors at times from what they post online, how they talk or share things. People are a bit less afraid to be themselves online, vs in person. I do think there is hope in connecting with other folk in person, because we often do this with others as friends, acquaintances, and networking! I think it’s entirely possible to find dates or partners in person, it just takes a bit more work. But, it’s better than running into constant dead end conversations online. You can really read energy in person better than online. I think online dating, specifically dating apps, will die sooner or later. People have more luck dating on a fucking online gaming forum than dating apps themselves lol! The options are all there, and no matter what, dating is hard in every way we could try to approach it. It’s better to me to figure out what your limits are, what you are willing to tolerate, and what you truly want from someone, and just go out there with that in mind, regardless of where you search for your person(s).
you've hit the nail on the head! 😂 all these apps n stuff, it's like we've invented new ways to get our hearts broken, no? hahahaha. online lets ppl see more of us, but it's all curated af. like, my insta makes me look way cooler than i am irl (sorry to disappoint y'all). but fr, you're so right - dating's a shitshow whether it's online or irl. maybe we should start a dating app called "expectation vs reality" where we show our best selfie next to us eating cheetos in bed at 3am. at least we'd all know what we're getting into, right? 😹🧡
Ooooo!!! That would be such a great idea!!! I mean what a way to be vulnerable up front, and show your true self to some degree :) I love that!! And also you are pretty cool in person idk what you are talking about lol!
Your wisdom and humor go hand in hand perfectly imo! I love the way you expressed everything. Your writing has been the highlight of my mornings lately, like going to read your horoscope before the day, but instead it’s let’s see what Eddy wrote today! 💕💭
Okay so previously before my now partner, I was on the apps on and off for a long time (aside from when I was in monogamous relationships). I looked for hook ups, dating, and even poly partners and threesomes. Needless to say, I did find all of these things, but! The temporary solutions to those wants and needs was really not worth the energy and effort of dead end conversations and horrible pick up lines. I won’t lie, I had great sex at times, and also the partners I did find through apps (three since I moved here), were actually pretty decent for what they were. One of them, my first partner out here, lasted 5 years, so I would say that was successful. Once, I did go on a date with a cis man who essentially confessed that he had cheated on his ex girlfriend, and that his ex and the girl he cheated with hooked up, and then invited him in for a threesome. He confessed these things after asking if I was okay with my partner being friends with their ex ☠️ so… yeah. I still proceeded to tease him though, since I wore a slutty mini skirt with fishnets and I had pushed my titties to the heavens. I didn’t get ready for no reason! The least I could get from this date was a delicious burger, milkshake, and the pathetic begging pleas to smash from this grungy looking grown man. It was a bust, but I was a lil hoe that loved making men beg. 🤭🤷🏻 sweet moments… hmm… one time I went on a walking date in balboa at night with a cis man (I know, very sus), and it was actually super wholesome and sweet. He was such a gentleman. Opened my door for me to his car, held my hand, gave me his jacket to stay warm. I felt so awkward and shy, but he was so lovely. He gave me a huge hug before he left, and it truly felt so healing in that moment. As if it shifted something for me.
gracias for the kind words, bello! you're making me blush harder than when my abuela catches me eating the last pastelillo. 😂🥟but shit, your dating stories are wild! that threesome confession guy? sounds like he needs jesus and a therapist, not a date. but props to you for securing that burger and milkshake, bahaha. #priorities and that wholesome balboa date sounds so damn cute, hun. i'm glad you had that experience. it's giving me hope that not all app dates end in therapy bills!! keep slaying, mi rey!
Awww 🥰 😌💕 I do think you should keep the hope alive, but! Don’t limit yourself either to the apps for sure. I heard somewhere, I think on a JVN podcast episode about how dating and romance is kind of like, declining or taking a toll because of so many things going on now. Maybe I can send it to you so you can see what you think?
Bahah SO SORRY okay I read my message back and realize I bombarded you with questions, bahaha! I just am sincerely curious about your experience! Because my experience is very AMAB...
Omg no worries at all! Just ganna have to open the “online dating” and “dating horror stories” files in my brain and see! Plus I’m at work, so might take a sec!
“because nothing says "date me" like looking like a tourist in your own city” hahaha puedo ver que sí que eres fucking gorgeous!! Sometimes the best thing to do is just deleting them for a long period to see what happens, just doing something different can lead to new things, it worked for me in the past🌞🌞🌞
I was in a coffee shop waiting for my order and trying to make small talk with some of the other people in line. Folks just aren’t used to it anymore. I had one convo that seemed to be going well until I heard them walk away with a friend… “Just standing there without a phone trying to get people to talk to him… like some kind of psychopath” We need to get back to communicating like people again - Well said my friend!
i swiped left on my current partner of 5 years 😹 so like i really don’t believe in the apps
😂 bahahaha, tht's hilarious. and a great point - can the apps make good opportunities or good people look bad, therefore you skip them? Does that make sense? Where the medium is just NOT good and you're actually better in person... you know... where it's supposed to count, lol. (Or is this just a Beryl moment? i tend to have my own eddy moments, so that's why i ask hahahaha) guess tinder's algorithm isn't as smart as abuela's matchmaking skills after all. maybe we should start an app called "what would abuela do?" – swipe left for chancletazos, right for love and maybe some rice. 🩴🍚
honestly amazed vic still wanted to date me after me swiping left and witnessing me in peak chaos gremlin mode on a campaign like if u think my adhd is bad now, you should have seen me at 22 😹😹😹😹
vic must have the patience of a saint and the vision of a psychic! 😂 if he saw you in full campaign gremlin mode and still said "yes, that's the chaos i want in my life," he is either a lil cray or your soulmate. maybe both? 🤷♂️ here's to love that survives left swipes and adhd hurricanes! 🌪️❤️ hahaha. that's beautiful. and honestly, a good example that what's meant for you can't miss ya.
probably a combo of the apps making good options look bad, and bad options look good, and also a beryl moment
a little bit of column a, a little bit of column b, and a little of column c...
omg a dating app where everyone is vetted by an abuela 😹
i 100% believe we will have no deficits of abuelas that will want to judge and vet, especially men. i know all the elder women of my family have that radar and will judge accordingly!!!! haha. i will never forget my great aunt saying to one of my female cousins "if you can't marry for love, then get one with a lot of money". i think they can't steer us wrong!😂😂
Omg this was so insightful and funny lol! I am so glad I am not on the apps anymore. My bf now is the first person since adulthood that I’ve met in person.
hey there, friend! thanks for dropping by and sharing your thoughts. i'm glad you found the post both insightful and funny - that's always the goal, you know? mixing a little wisdom with a dash of humor! 😉so, you've escaped the wild world of dating apps, huh? i'm curious - what was your experience like on the apps before meeting your current beau? any horror stories you'd care to share? or maybe some unexpectedly sweet moments? i feel like everyone who's dipped their toes in the online dating pool has at least one story that's either hilarious or horrifying (or both). and hey, since we're on the topic, what do you think about the whole "meeting people in real life" thing nowadays? does it feel like a lost art to you? or do you think there's hope for us yet in this digital age? i'm all ears (or eyes, in this case), hahaha
When it comes to meeting people in real life, I do feel like it’s a lost art that is VERY slowly, like snail pace slow, coming back. I’m not sure that is a lost cause tbh. I think it’s just hard to trust a stranger at face value, vs what they post and share online. You can see people’s true colors at times from what they post online, how they talk or share things. People are a bit less afraid to be themselves online, vs in person. I do think there is hope in connecting with other folk in person, because we often do this with others as friends, acquaintances, and networking! I think it’s entirely possible to find dates or partners in person, it just takes a bit more work. But, it’s better than running into constant dead end conversations online. You can really read energy in person better than online. I think online dating, specifically dating apps, will die sooner or later. People have more luck dating on a fucking online gaming forum than dating apps themselves lol! The options are all there, and no matter what, dating is hard in every way we could try to approach it. It’s better to me to figure out what your limits are, what you are willing to tolerate, and what you truly want from someone, and just go out there with that in mind, regardless of where you search for your person(s).
you've hit the nail on the head! 😂 all these apps n stuff, it's like we've invented new ways to get our hearts broken, no? hahahaha. online lets ppl see more of us, but it's all curated af. like, my insta makes me look way cooler than i am irl (sorry to disappoint y'all). but fr, you're so right - dating's a shitshow whether it's online or irl. maybe we should start a dating app called "expectation vs reality" where we show our best selfie next to us eating cheetos in bed at 3am. at least we'd all know what we're getting into, right? 😹🧡
Ooooo!!! That would be such a great idea!!! I mean what a way to be vulnerable up front, and show your true self to some degree :) I love that!! And also you are pretty cool in person idk what you are talking about lol!
Your wisdom and humor go hand in hand perfectly imo! I love the way you expressed everything. Your writing has been the highlight of my mornings lately, like going to read your horoscope before the day, but instead it’s let’s see what Eddy wrote today! 💕💭
Okay so previously before my now partner, I was on the apps on and off for a long time (aside from when I was in monogamous relationships). I looked for hook ups, dating, and even poly partners and threesomes. Needless to say, I did find all of these things, but! The temporary solutions to those wants and needs was really not worth the energy and effort of dead end conversations and horrible pick up lines. I won’t lie, I had great sex at times, and also the partners I did find through apps (three since I moved here), were actually pretty decent for what they were. One of them, my first partner out here, lasted 5 years, so I would say that was successful. Once, I did go on a date with a cis man who essentially confessed that he had cheated on his ex girlfriend, and that his ex and the girl he cheated with hooked up, and then invited him in for a threesome. He confessed these things after asking if I was okay with my partner being friends with their ex ☠️ so… yeah. I still proceeded to tease him though, since I wore a slutty mini skirt with fishnets and I had pushed my titties to the heavens. I didn’t get ready for no reason! The least I could get from this date was a delicious burger, milkshake, and the pathetic begging pleas to smash from this grungy looking grown man. It was a bust, but I was a lil hoe that loved making men beg. 🤭🤷🏻 sweet moments… hmm… one time I went on a walking date in balboa at night with a cis man (I know, very sus), and it was actually super wholesome and sweet. He was such a gentleman. Opened my door for me to his car, held my hand, gave me his jacket to stay warm. I felt so awkward and shy, but he was so lovely. He gave me a huge hug before he left, and it truly felt so healing in that moment. As if it shifted something for me.
gracias for the kind words, bello! you're making me blush harder than when my abuela catches me eating the last pastelillo. 😂🥟but shit, your dating stories are wild! that threesome confession guy? sounds like he needs jesus and a therapist, not a date. but props to you for securing that burger and milkshake, bahaha. #priorities and that wholesome balboa date sounds so damn cute, hun. i'm glad you had that experience. it's giving me hope that not all app dates end in therapy bills!! keep slaying, mi rey!
Awww 🥰 😌💕 I do think you should keep the hope alive, but! Don’t limit yourself either to the apps for sure. I heard somewhere, I think on a JVN podcast episode about how dating and romance is kind of like, declining or taking a toll because of so many things going on now. Maybe I can send it to you so you can see what you think?
Yes! I'll give it a listen
Ooo I’ll have to sit down for this response lol!
Bahah SO SORRY okay I read my message back and realize I bombarded you with questions, bahaha! I just am sincerely curious about your experience! Because my experience is very AMAB...
Omg no worries at all! Just ganna have to open the “online dating” and “dating horror stories” files in my brain and see! Plus I’m at work, so might take a sec!