on the best moments
why some things are better kept to yourself
in bad bunny’s song "me fui de vacaciones," there’s a poignant line that resonates deeply: “lo mejor nunca se sube.”
translated, it means "the best is never uploaded."
this phrase captures a profound truth about our modern lives, particularly how social media has altered our perceptions of relationships and meaningful connections.
in a world obsessed with capturing the perfect instagram moment, we often lose sight of the genuine experiences that give life its richness and depth.
in today’s digital age, many of our interactions and experiences are driven by the desire to appear perfect online. we curate our lives to fit an idealized version that will garner the most likes, shares, and positive comments. this curation often means that we prioritize moments that look good in photos over those that feel good in reality.
we’re more concerned with the aesthetic of our brunch than the conversation we have over it, more focused on capturing a sunset than truly watching it. this obsession with creating a visually appealing life can hollow out our relationships.
friendships become about who looks best in a selfie together rather than who offers genuine support. relationships are judged by public displays of affection rather than private moments of intimacy.
the pressure to be constantly visible and perfect online can lead to shallow connections that lack the depth and authenticity needed to sustain real bonds.
social media operates like a dopamine casino. every like, comment, and share gives us a small hit of pleasure, a validation that we are seen and appreciated. this constant search for validation can become addictive, making us prioritize online approval over genuine human connection.
the need to document every aspect of our lives for public consumption can lead to a sense of emptiness, as we start living more for others’ perceptions than for our own experiences.
this addiction to social media not only impacts our relationships but also our mental health. studies have shown that excessive use of social media can lead to feelings of loneliness, depression, and anxiety. the curated perfection we see on our feeds can make us feel inadequate and isolated, as we compare our real lives to the highlight reels of others. we begin to measure our worth by the number of likes and followers, losing sight of the intrinsic value of our experiences and relationships.
when our primary goal is to create moments that are instagrammable, we miss out on the opportunity to build deeper, more meaningful connections.
true friendships and relationships are built on shared experiences, vulnerability, and mutual support—qualities that are difficult to capture in a photo.
the best moments, as bad bunny suggests, are often those that are never uploaded, the ones that are too personal, too intimate, and too real to be reduced to a social media post.
imagine the difference between a night out with friends where everyone is constantly taking photos and one where phones are set aside, and the focus is on genuine conversation and connection. in the latter scenario, you are more likely to create memories that stay with you, not because they were documented, but because they were lived fully. these are the moments that nourish our souls, that make us feel truly connected and alive.
you also need to take into account this - not everyone looks at your pictures or at the things you do online with good eyes. social media can be a breeding ground for envy and ill will.
by keeping some of your best moments to yourself, you protect the sanctity of your experiences from those who might not have your best interests at heart.
this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t document your life, but rather that you should be selective about what you share. some moments are best kept private, cherished in your memory rather than displayed for the world to see.
to reclaim authenticity in our relationships and lives, we need to shift our focus from how things look to how things feel.
this means being present in our interactions, valuing quality time over quantity of posts, and choosing to experience life’s moments without the filter of social media. it’s about finding joy in the unplanned, the imperfect, and the deeply personal experiences that can’t be captured in a photo.
we need to recognize that the validation we seek online can never replace the fulfillment that comes from real human connection. it’s important to set boundaries with our use of social media, taking time to disconnect and engage with the world around us.
this can be as simple as having phone-free dinners, spending time in nature, or engaging in activities that foster creativity and connection without the need for an online audience.
bad bunny’s line “lo mejor nunca se sube” serves as a powerful reminder that the best moments in life are often those that we choose to keep private, the ones that can’t be neatly packaged for social media consumption.
… Lo mejor nunca se sube
Al menos que en la radio salga esta canción
Hoy voy a darle paz a mi corazón……Mi shorty con la gente
Que quiere saberlo to'
Si pongo el location
Ya no es un secret spot…
as we navigate a world increasingly driven by the need for online validation, it’s crucial to remember the value of authentic experiences and genuine connections.
by prioritizing the moments that matter, not for their instagram potential, but for their ability to make us feel truly alive, we can build a life that is rich in meaning and connection, far beyond the reach of likes and shares.
there are pictures of amazing moments with people that mean the world to me. and you know what? it’s okay if you don’t get to see them.
they’re for me. not for you.
te quiero mucho. cuidate.
mood fr - im so bad ab remembering to take photos/videos if i’m having a good time! and/or i only take a photo of animals 😹😹😹